Brides go through them. So do bridegrooms. Pre-wedding jitters are perfectly normal, but they do have the tendency to cause sleepless nights, sweaty palms, and some pretty nasty breakdowns before the big day. Contrary to popular belief, the jitters don’t always occur just a week or a couple of days before you walk down the aisle. Many times, they can come as early as the moment of the proposal and the engagement ring gets slipped on the future bride’s finger! Some people mistake them for getting cold feet about commitment, but there are ways to overcome pre-wedding jitters and start marriage off on the right foot.
Have heart-to-heart talks with close friends and family members.
The people closest to you would be willing to lend an ear to your thoughts on getting married. Whether it’s merely about the wedding arrangements and details (and how you think something monumentally wrong will occur) or your fears on being hitched, turn to trusted friends and relatives to boost your confidence. Don’t be afraid to open up about the nitty-gritty. Those who really care for you can give you the comforting words you need to hear and calm your frazzled nerves.
Schedule a relaxing trip to the spa for a massage, or a mani-pedi session at the salon. Unwind with a favorite movie and a nice dinner afterward. Spend some leisurely time at the park doing nothing stressful. Learning to relax is a great talisman against pre-wedding jitters of any kind. If you find yourself being plagued with doubts, you can overcome them with the simple act of appreciating beautiful things and recalling meaningful experiences.
Avoid last-minute relationship advice from so-called “experts”.
Even though they may appear well-meaning, many relationship “gurus” can actually do more harm than good if you seek them out a short period prior to your wedding day. When in doubt, the best people to turn to would be close friends and relatives, not pros who give impersonal advice without bothering to know your relationship’s history.
Do not strive for perfection all the time.
This holds true for both wedding day plans and the marriage itself. Being perfect all the time is the root cause of anxiety. Recognize that there might be hitches: things may not go according to plan during your special day, then live with it. Leave the small details for others to organize: that’s what wedding coordinators, family, friends, and the entourage are there for! As for your married life, mutual trust, respect, and love are still the top three foundations for a great life together…not perfection.