When a relationship reaches the point where engagement becomes the next logical step, it’s time for the perfect proposal plan! Yet, before a giddy “YES!” can follow a dazzling ring sliding down a finger, one question needs an answer.
“What’s your ring size?”
Well, there might be another one later, but we’ll focus on this one first.
Unfortunately, asking any betrothed-to-be about their ring size is a surefire way to ruin an engagement surprise. Discovering the perfect finger circumference requires stealth and imagination. An engagement ring that’s too small won’t pop past the knuckle and a ring with too much room will be designated to the middle finger, spin, or even fall off. Neither scenario makes for flattering engagement ring selfies.
Finding the right ring size to seal the engagement is a James Bond endeavor. So pour a martini (shaken, not stirred) and implement these sneaky strategies to snag the digit of the most important digit:
1. Ask a friend.
This requires caution. Ask the wrong friend, and they may spill the beans. Ask only those most trusted in the inner circle who can keep the secret.
2. Compare hands.
This is recommended for those with true measurement skill. Knowing one’s own ring size is the only way this can work. The idea is to compare sizes and estimate a ring size. Again, this works best for individuals with a good eye for measure.
3. Use an old ring as a guide.
If an old ring size is known, you can go with that size. Or borrow an old ring and take it to a jeweler to find the size. Size may be checked using a printable online ring size chart. To use the online chart, print it and hold a ring up to the different sized circles to determine its size.
4. Spare a quarter and invest in a gumball machine ring.
No, don’t use it for the proposal! Most rings out of gumball machines are adjustable. Adjust it to fit the finger for fun. When the ring is removed, snag it like 007 and give it to a jeweler to measure.
5. Bring it up in conversation.
Most couples discuss engagement before the big proposal. Use conversations to discuss ring styles and preferred metals (many people have a preference in metal color). Sneak a question about size, but do not make it obvious. Note a ring already on the hand…perhaps on a different finger. Inquire about that particular ring and gain clues to help determine exact size.
6. Work with a sibling or friend to try on rings with the future fiancé.
Plan a grand scheme with a friend or sibling; tell them that they need to pretend to be wedding crazy. They can plan a day at a jeweler’s when out shopping. The friend or sibling must play along! Trying on rings helps to discover personal style and size. They should encourage your partner to try different rings, diamond sizes, metals, then have the jeweler measure finger size for a proper fit. Your co-conspirator can report back the details. Remember, though, that the friend or relative must remain tight-lipped and trustworthy.
7. Ask mom.
Mothers know just about everything about their children, including ring size. Asking the mother of a future spouse, however, is a mixed bag. If future mom-in-law approves, she will likely be over-the-moon to be included in such a situation. The opposite could also be true; use good judgment.
If all else fails, and there is no other choice, offer up the best guess. Ideally, try to estimate within one size. A jewelry expert might be able to help you out with your guess.
Discovering the ring size before popping the big question ensures that the dream ring slips on the finger without error. Once the ring is on–and the YES has been proclaimed–let the perfect engagement ring selfies begin! If the ring isn’t a fit, though, don’t fret. Sizing down or up is just a quick alteration when it comes to a lifetime of happiness.